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04:21:2002 Entry: "Some History"
Some History
See, I think the reason why Stan and I have such a good relationship is because we got the bad stuff out of the way in the beginning. None of that romantic "you're the only one for me" stuff. When we first started going out, Stan had a crush on another woman. I felt very left out, but by the time he started coming around to me and realizing that I sincerely had feelings for him, I started rethinking those feelings (thanks to a so-called female friend who shall go unmentioned who tried to make me think that Stan was a loser). A lot of this was happening in the fall/winter of 1982/83. There was a pregnancy scare in there too...that didn't help (or maybe it did?). In the beginning of the spring semester 1983, we were really at eachother's throats in a literature class that we signed up for together. Then for a Valentine's Day card, I gave him a photocopied picture of my hand in Full Bird position. In return, he gave me a picture he drew of a heart-shaped vagina with a cupid's arrow through it.
Then we almost broke up. But there was something that held us together, and it must have been the friendship. Despite the exchange of vitriolic cards on VDay, we were able to see through those and laugh at them. We had found eachother, two people with a very dark sense of humour that weren't easily grossed out or offended by eachother's maniacal wryness.
Over a decade later, working at Orchard Hill, Tim sent a sarcastic wry note to the kitchen staff regarding something about the meal that Stan had prepared. Stan sent back an equally crass note. To most people, they would've been enemies (or at least antagonistic coworkers!). But that was the beginning of their friendship....they knew they had the same kind of dark sense of humour.
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Do you still have it around somewhere? The heart shaped *ahem* vagina? Wouldn't you say it's a rather piggy thing to give a woman on valentinesday?? ;o) Oh well, I won't start again.
Posted by Nicolas @ 02/11/2002 12:51 PM CST
No, I don't still have it; I wish I did. We kept so much other stuff from that time in our life, but it's all very unorganized in file folders. We're very unsentimental, actually. I only bought a photo album once in my life, and that was to showcase small sellable artworks. Currently our history in photos is scattered in the original photo developing envelopes they return the pictures to you in all over the kitchen table. No joke. Long story.
No, I don't think it's a piggy thing to give a woman...at the time I thought it was cruel since we were having a row so I knew the sentiment it was intended in.
A piggy thing to give a woman for VDay would be a sexy negiligee in expectations that she'll give you some then and there. Or, another piggy thing to do would be to forget about your lover altogether and go out to a sports bar with the guys (unless you invite her too and she wants to come, of course!).
The most romantic thing Stan ever gave me was a box of live toads (not on Valentine's day...it was in August, I think, when toads are about).
We're not like regular couples.
Posted by Ann @ 02/11/2002 01:08 PM CST
It's not a long tradition to celebrate valentinesday over here, it was adopted by businessguys because they saw a big profit potential in it. I find it kind of lousy to steal an old tradition from another country just to make money on it. Alright, here I go with my left-wing stuff, if I also had a right-wing I could probably fly ;o)
I can't remember to have ever seen a woman in a negiligee, I think I would laugh if I did ;o)
Posted by Nicolas @ 02/11/2002 04:14 PM CST
I have both a left and a right wing, but instead of flying, I seem to be grounded.
I think VDay should be an Adults Only holiday. They should totally take it out of the schoolsystem. It's cruel to make kids exchange cards in class. Some day, maybe in 200 years or so, we'll look back on that practice and realize how barbaric it is. However, Halloween, on the other hand, should be celebrated by everyone.
Posted by Ann @ 02/11/2002 04:31 PM CST
you know, i always get a box of delicious chocolates all to myself, and the same card for the last 3-4 years...this silly looking guy with glasses,a blue bathrobe (( which looks alot like my husband )) and this guy is standing on the kitchen table flashing his wife, who doesn;t notice....LOL i think it;s hilarious! although, i often wonder if he bought the whole stack of cards.....doesn't matter, cause i love them anyway
Posted by Lori @ 02/11/2002 11:04 PM CST