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04:21:2002 Entry: "I heard this was International Women's Day."
I heard this was International Women's Day.
I have a few bones to pick.
I am very angry. Women seem to want to strive to go beyond all the ceilings holding them back. Sometimes I think women are the ceilings themselves.
This is what's sticking in my craw:
Women who complain about their cheating slob male chauvinist pig husbands but they keep them around for breeding because they're "real men" and they wouldn't be caught dead going out with someone with kind and sensitive qualities lest they be too feminine and, horror or horrors, someone think they're gay.
Women who are angered by men who look at breasts, yet they are constantly looking at men's pocketbooks.
Women who stare at me (and I'm not talking about lesbians, I'm talking about straight women), and even worse, women who are having a conversation in a store or some public place and I walk past them or into the room and they stop talking and stare. Can someone please explain this behavior to me? I sure don't understand it. Are they scrutinizing my hair? My clothes? My figure? Why? Why is this necessary?
The continuing emphasis on professional attire when professionalism is in the woman's manner, not her clothes.
Thank you for letting me vent. I will now sign off and scream at the walls.
14 Comments
I guess women can be very critical to eachother instead of supportive, they have a tendency to remark how other women look, and I guess they push eachother to keep up the being cute and kind and thin ideal, like men earlier tried to keep up the macho ideal and did their best to push it on *ahem* poor guys like me who liked to do some cooking and have a tidy home ;o]
Posted by Nico @ 03/08/2002 05:34 PM CST
And yes, I used to find it amazing too how the type of guys you describe was always so popular.
Posted by Nico @ 03/08/2002 05:38 PM CST
Oh Ann, you are so right!! I'm glad you said it, it needed to be said! :o)
Posted by Maria @ 03/08/2002 08:25 PM CST
I totally agree! But I think itīs somehow in womenīs nature that they always gotta be mean to each other. Sometimes Iīm just like that myself. But what do you do when you come into a room and they stare at you and talk about you? Do you manage to stay calm and friendly? Then youīre stronger than most!
Posted by Mistress Angelique @ 03/09/2002 05:07 AM CST
Ann, I share your sentiments. Even when women are most likely to be "nurturing," they are prone to jealousy and envy when other women have "achieved" or "accomplished." This may just be a simple fact of hypocrisy. Hypocrisy does not discriminate.
Posted by Jane @ 03/09/2002 09:15 AM CST
Thanks, you guys! Yes, Nico, I do wonder why that kind of guy is popular, to me it's a turnoff. I much prefer the kind who cooks!
Mistresss Angelique, I don't necessarily think it's in a woman's nature; I think it's more how she is raised. I was not raised to be that way, so when I went to school and encountered those who were, it threw me for a loop because I didn't know how to play their little game, which ostracized me further. What do I do when I encounter a "staring" situation? I try to ignore them. And if they keep it up, I give them a stern look; that usually does the trick. Although with some it seems to incense them, like it's ok for them to stare at me, but not vice-a-versa?
Posted by Ann @ 03/09/2002 09:23 AM CST
I do stare back at them too but isnīt that already the same misbehavior they showed first?! Itīs kinda difficult. And now you made me wonder if I was really raised to be like that.
Posted by Mistress Angelique @ 03/09/2002 10:30 AM CST
I don't think of it as the same misbehavior as much as it is giving them a taste of their own medicine. My gaze is looking them straight in the eye, whereas theirs is sizing me up and down. And I do that with boorish men too. ;-)
Posted by Ann @ 03/09/2002 10:57 AM CST
I agree with all the stuff you wrote in the post. Women can help themselves, my days as a feminist are dead and burried.
Posted by Nico @ 03/09/2002 11:42 AM CST
Okay, you convinced me! ;0) Wasnīt that easy?
Posted by Mistress Angelique @ 03/09/2002 01:30 PM CST
Amen, sisters!
Posted by shelley @ 03/09/2002 11:52 PM CST
Rude people suck! Hypocritical, money hungry, user people suck, too. People who are secure in themselves do not demean themselves in such a way.
Posted by ali @ 03/10/2002 01:01 AM CST
and they say men can be pigs...
anyhoo....do you think that, just maybe, they are staring because they know they cannot compare and are awestruck by your sheer beauty???
i tend to have that in mind when i am being stared at.....;)
Posted by Lori @ 03/10/2002 11:46 AM CST
LOL Lori! Oh, but of course, why didn't I think of that sooner? ;-D
Posted by Ann @ 03/11/2002 09:03 AM CST